The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as ‘to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt’. Forgiveness was the topic at church yesterday and it really seemed to hit a cord with me. To forgive is to pardon a debt. Many of us have been hurt by someone along the journey of life. Be it a parent who was never there, a life partner who left your side, people who have said hurtful things to you. We hold them in debt. In the majority of the cases this is a debt that we will NEVER fully regain. How does a parent payback a stolen childhood? How does a life partner repay you for all the hurt they caused in your life? It cant be done!! Once we learn this we can then let go and FORGIVE that debt. Forgiveness is not a “feeling”. So don’t wait for it to come. You have to take the first step.
If the person you have not been able to forgive has passed away, write their name on a piece of paper and then write FORGIVEN over it with a marker. After doing so throw the paper in the fire. The weight that will be lifted from your shoulder is incredible.
For those that are still among us you can always send them a card expressing to them that they have been forgiven and their debt pardoned. Keeping open accounts due to lack of forgiveness can definitely suck the life out of you. Make a change today!!
Have a blessed week!
A little girl was asked what forgiveness is…
She gave a beautiful answer…
“It is the fragrance that flowers give when they are crushed…”