On The Rebound

We have all heard the phrase “on the rebound”. I’m pretty sure a lot of us have fallen into a similar situation. We seem to think a new relationship will magically heal pain and fill voids made by a previous partner. Even though at the moment it feels like it’s the right thing to do, this couldn’t be further from the truth, Our emotional body, just like our physical body, needs time to heal. It’s hard, but you must learn to “do you” before moving on to a new relationship.

The burning question then becomes; How long does it take to heal? I wish I could answer this. It could take months or it could take years. Everyone is different. No one but God knows the answer to that question. It’s hard at the beginning, but you gotta learn to do you! Travel, meet new places and people. Live life! That feeling of anxiety caused by the thought of doings things alone soon disappears. You will learn to have fun on your own. Then and only then are you ready to take on the feat of a new relationship. You can’t love someone else until you have learned to love yourself. 

Emotional healing is a lot like physical healing. A basketball player with a badly sprained ankle can be injected with massive amounts of cortisone before the game and he’ll most likely feel like a million dollars. The cortisone, like a new relationship, momentarily numbs the pain and everything is seemingly great. The next day when the numbing feeling from the cortisone wears off, the sprained ankle is a lot worse then it was from the original injury. The athlete, much like the person on the rebound should have remained still and allowed due healing time.


Be still…things will come in God’s time!!  


3 thoughts on “On The Rebound

  1. Excellent points here. For each person, the recovery time is different. I’ve recovered from some in a day, while others have taken years…and even then there’s sometimes a small part that holds on. What I’ve learned is never to jump into any relationship too fast. Become friends first, because after you’ve both lost your good looks, friendship is all you’ll have left. 🙂

    1. I could not agree with you more! A relationship should be built on solid ground so it may pass the test of time. That foundation is friendship! What better than to marry your BFF.

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